HE LOVES HER AND SHE LOVES HIM!!!

Good Afternoon and Ramadhan Mubarak! I just had to share this with you! I'm not going to say her name because I didn't get permission but I must say, there is a newly wedded couple at the Masjid in my current hometown that has restored alot of people's faith in love and it is one of the most beautiful things I have witnessed in a long time! They are an older couple, who both had trials and tribulations in the past. Subhanallah, the love they have between eachother is soooo incredible. They are both glowing, acting like teenagers, her husband winks at her all day, and everytime you see them your heart melts just as described in Abu Ibrahim's book,Sex In Islamwhich gives excellent advice to Muslim couples everywhere!! Love is refreshing, especially when you find your soul-mate. We all agree this couple were created for eachother! I love to see two beautiful souls unite under the umbrella of marriage. So this post goes out to any of you who may have given up on LOVE; someone is out there for you even if you already lived your life. Awwwwe, make dua for them. They married right before Ramadhan so this is their very first Ramadhan together! Good luck on your journey of love! May you find your soul-mate who far exceeds all of your expectations and May Allah grant you renewed love for those of you who are married! Amin! Until we meet again... Happy Blogging!

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My dad said I had 60 Seconds!

Good Morning, Well, I must say this is the best news I've had in a long time and of course I want to share it with you! So I just returned from ICNA (Islamic Circle of North America) convention 2013 this past Memorial Weekend in Connecticut and it was absolutely the best one I've ever attended. I spent the entire weekend listening to scholars such as Imam Siraj Wahhaj, Imam Omar Suleiman, Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan, Sheikh Yasr Qadhi, Imam Suhaib Webb, Dr Altaf Hussain, Dr Jamal Badawi, Ustadh Wisam Sharieff, Imam Zaid Shakir, Naim Beigg and so much more! I even had the pleasure to attend the entertainment portion which featured artists such as Native Deen's Joshua Salaam, Comedian Omar Regan, Poet G.I. Jaaber, and Hamza Siddiqui. And all I can say is Awesome! Awesome! Awesome! So here's the part that calls for all of the exclamation points and excitement. After the keynote session entitled, "Islam: The Pursuit of Happiness", my dad rushed off the stage to where I was sitting and said "I just talked to Nouman Ali Khan and told him you need 60 seconds of his time. You have 60 seconds, go". Subhanallah, I grabbed my pocketbook and my 3 year old daughter and flew to the stage. I introduced myself to Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan giving him a 30 second spill about my teen program Q.u.e.e.n. Inc and about a young woman who was accepted to his program "Bayyinah Dream" but didn't have the $7750 to attend and this is all he asked. "Is she African American"? I responded, "Yes". "Where does she live"? "Atlanta, Ga". "Can you vouch for her"? "Yes, she's brilliant". "Tell Fatima Lette she has been fully sponsored for Bayyinah Dream Intensive 2013! Subhnallah!!! I couldn't get to my room fasted enough to cry. I poured my heart out to Allah thanking him for allowing me to witness this blessing for 19 year old Fatima who wanted nothing more than to attend this Quran Intensive program! Subhanallah! Fatima Lette is a 19 yr old Psychology student who dedicates her life to help serve humanity. She is the founder of her own Youth organization, regularly feeds the homeless, gets involved in all sorts of causes to benefit humanity, and is one of the most giving, humble, peaceful human beings I have ever met. I am so honored and happy to witness Fatima's Bayyinah Dream come true! She worked so hard for this. We must empower our youth. They are the future and need our assistance! That "60 second elevator speech" changed a young Muslim's life and I am forever grateful to Allah to witness her blessing! Please Keep my Nouman Ali Khan, my dad, and dear Fatima in your dua as she embarks on a journey that will change her life and the lives of those she touches. For all of you participated in Fatima's fundraiser (whether by donating money, sharing her donation website, or simply making dua) may you receive a piece of every reward Fatima attains by helping to make this come true! Amin! Until we meet again... Happy Blogging! I'll attach a link to Nouman Ali Khan's Bayyinah website. http://bayyinah.com/dream/ . For a chance to win free advertisement on The Hujrah Wahhaj Show like my page here.

Are You Holding Your Relationship Hostage??

I was researching effective ways to communicate with your spouse when I came across this article, which is one of the most prolific articles I've ever read. A man said after five years of controlling his wife and criticizing everything she did his marriage healed the night he said "I'm sorry". He said he never allowed his wife the right to complain without paying a huge price, and this destroyed their intimacy. Now he has learned that nothing makes his wife feel more secure than being a selfless, sensitive, verbally affectionate husband who is the leader in spirituality, romance, finance, and children. His advice: Create a safe atmosphere for your spouse to be real. The safest place for her to discuss her problems should be with you. Never use anything your spouse tells you in confidentiality against her, ie divulge it or use it against her in an argument because she'll never open up to you again. Never reject your spouse, rejection is the worst emotion a human being can feel and she will make it her life mission to be sure you feel her pain. Men would much rather spend time with their spouse if they're having fun. If you're not meeting your spouse's needs today she won't be optimistic about your future and you won't get the best out of her if she is insecure about her future. Security for a woman is when her man is attached, connected, committed, and sacrifices to meet her needs. Remember to speak each other's language and LOVE is THE best feeling any human being can feel. He also states during his pre-marital counseling sessions many couples decided not to move forward with the wedding after having them fill out an extensive pre-marital questionnaire realizing they were extremely incompatible. He wasn't surprised because nowadays many couples on the verge of marriage focus more on planning the wedding of their dreams instead of asking real questions such as where they will live, how many kids they want, who will be in charge of the finances, who makes the final decisions, etc. According to research from the University of Washington who has a 93% accuracy, the number one predictor of divorce is criticism. Keep in mind sometimes we carry around emotional pre-existing baggage that if not addressed can also be a number one predictor of divorce. This is a pastor who has turned his marriage around, is best friends with his wife and has "the greatest relationship" because he "was beaten up pretty badly" trying to reject the inherited differences between men and women. He is one of the best marriage counselors to date. WOW! Great advice! As I was reading this article I thought to myself wow, after five years of destroying his marriage by never apologizing when he was wrong, criticizing his wife, and making her pay a huge price for complaining, he was holding his relationship hostage. All the love he is now experiencing is because he learned (the hard way), that if he wants the sweetness of marriage it behooved him to learn how to effectively communicate love to his wife. Effectively communicating love to your spouse means you must become humble, very humble. You must be quiet, listen, analyze, and find out who your spouse is and how she communicates love to you. In Lyn Hunt's book Communication in a Relationship, she explains that effective communication is at the heart of all great relationships and gives some of the best top tips on how to build a loving relationship through your mate's communication style. Only if we can get all couples to see how important it is for them to learn this skill to have more love, want to spend more time with each other and have all their friends telling them how much they're glowing because their relationships is just that great! No two people think the same so in a marriage it is important to remember that you are always learning your spouse who is a growing adult and constantly changing. If you do not grow with your spouse and learn her communication style you will be at the bad end of a frustrated wife who feels unappreciated and like her husband doesn't get her. This pastor has "mastered" his wife's language so he knows how to get the best out of her which encouraged her to master his language so she can get the best out of him. Now, because this couple makes it a priority to effectively communicate love to each other in their language, they have reached a joyful place in their marriage where they genuinely love and appreciate one another. Stay tuned for an extensive pre-marital questionnaire to find out if your husband/wife to be is the best fit for you. Good Luck and may your marriage be filled with joy, blessings, peace, happiness, prosperity, and longevity. For a chance to win free advertisement on The Hujrah Wahhaj Show like my page  here.

"Do more than exist, live. Do more than touch, feel. Do more than look, observe. Do more than read, absorb. Do more than hear, listen. Do more than listen, understand. Do more than think, ponder. Do more than talk, say something." -John H. Rhodes

I was on a morning conference call, when a listener chimed in and said this
"I was at a self development seminar and this great motivational speaker was giving this incredible speech. He told us to raise our hands, so each of us in the audience raised our hands. He then said No, I want you guys to stand up and raise your hands excitedly, jump up and down and have fun and really really raise your hands. The audience did just that, got out of their seats and raised their hands with enthusiasm. And in the course of that, the speaker said "Now, Why is it that someone else has to tell you to do your best? Do your best the first time, because sometimes that's all you get".

WOW! This REALLY spoke to me! Why do we seek permission to our best? Why are we an apporoval seeking nation? Why not be a leader, trendsetter, a fulfilled soul living with passion to carryout his mission?

 I felt obliged to share this with you because I remember when I was once a confused, doubtful, soul seeking approval and acceptance. Now, I can't stop looking for new, fresh ideas that set me apart from everyone else! The best person you can be is you! Are you a follower or leader?

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Snippet of My Talk Show

Peace and Greetings!

I pray you are at your absolute best! I remember a time in my life when all I could see was all the things that were wrong in my life. This was a time when all I can do was wish and hope for something new and different; a different type of life. With lots of prayer, purifying my intentions, courage, determination, and faith, The Creator has blessed me to accomplish many of my Visions! All Praises are due to Him.

I have been so incredibly busy. I am extremely grateful for all the wonderful opportunities that have been opening up for me and I promise to do better updating you through this blog. Like my page here for a free chance to win advertisement on my show!

So with that said, I will attempt to catch you up with all my endeavors! Here's a snippet from the debut of my T.v. talk show, The Hujrah Wahhaj Show. Enjoy! Love you!


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My Speech in L.A.

What an amazing time I had in L.A. with my dad. I had no idea that living my passion would be this fun! I was born to do this and I am so Grateful to The Creator for choosing me to do this work!

This is the speech I did at The Seerah Council in Los Angeles, Ca. Enjoy!

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I Just Don't Care

I just don’t care. Why do we procrastinate? What it is about that to do list that makes us wait to the very last minute? Why do the majority of people procrastinate? The number one reason is simply because we don’t care. We’re not excited about the task or goal at hand. We’re not excited enough about it to lose sleep over or jump out of our bed. Life is happening to us and we’re just reluctantly going along. Now don’t get me wrong, there are everyday mundane things we must do that won’t excite us like ironing clothes or studying for an upcoming exam. However, if we simply change the meaning we attach to the goal (ie, give your goals a meaning you care about) you will do it more excitingly and live life with more juice. Reasons For Procrastinating: Ironing clothes is boring but if you’re launching a major project that you’ve worked so hard on, or you’re about to catch a flight to a Hawaiian vacation you’ve been looking forward to all year, ironing clothes will be a total different experience. Studying for an exam on a subject that intrigues you so much you won’t want to put the textbook down will deliver a different experience than studying some boring required subject you’ll probably never use again. It’s the experiences we live and work for. The bottom line is most of us are not living a life with juice. We stagnate, drag, and barely make it through the day because we just don’t care about what we’re doing. We find that we must do what needs to get done, reluctantly and our experiences are joyless and for some, full of regret. Two more common reasons we procrastinate are fear and a lack of knowledge of how to get “there.” As for fear, everyone at some point in their lives face fear. Whether it's fear of success or failure the secret is the top successful people has figured out a way, or paid someone, to show them how to move in spite of fear. That’s it. That’s the big mystery solved. The fear you have of failure, success, or the unknown never truly dissipates. You just need to learn how to manage it well enough so that it does not stop you or your visions, and certainly not your mission. As for not knowing how to get “there”, I’d like to propose a question. If I asked you the quickest way to get to Egypt and you’ve never been there could you give me an accurate answer? Of course not. Guessing would be a waste of time so the best thing to do is to equip yourself with a map or compass ie, people with experience such as mentors, life coaches, or guidance counselors, parents, or friends that will hold you accountable for your actions and encourage you to propel forward regardless of what your circumstances look like today. The bottom line is you have to live for yourself. You must decide to walk down your path. Find true meaning and purpose for your life and goals, purify your intentions, equip yourself with a good map and proper guidance, take action today even if it's just a step, and surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable when you need it the most and cheer you on until the end! Life will begin to look different for you as it has for so many people before you struggling through the same test and you will find that you will begin accomplishing goals way before they are almost due! Procrastination is the anti-Best You! For more inspiring articles subscribe to my FREE newsletter at Hujrahwahhaj.com and be sure to like The Hujrah Wahhaj T.V. Show's fanpage at https://www.facebook.com/hujrahwahhajshow